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Mentoring Services—Divorce Coaching & Parenting Coordination
What is Divorce Coaching?

Since there are no laws defining this work, there is no “legal” definition of Divorce Coaching. There are no licensing boards authorizing individuals to do this work. Anyone can say they are a “Divorce Coach,” so the real question is: what kind of assistance does your client need and who can help?

Generally, a Divorce Coach will provide education and guidance to empower clients as they grow through the transformative process of divorce. A Divorce Coach who is a qualified professional Parenting Coordinator is a bonus for families with children (see discussion below).

When one household becomes two, everything changes. Each “head of household” has their own responsibilities and feelings about how their life is now as compared to how it was “before.” A Divorce Coach guides clients as they develop the new personal skills they often need, not to merely survive, but to thrive, during and after divorce.

A Divorce Coach who is a qualified professional Parenting Coordinator is a valuable resource to clients as they take on their new role as a single parent, balancing their children’s needs with their own. Just one parent’s commitment and growth can make a huge difference in the family’s dynamics.

A Divorce Coach understands the “business” of dissolving the marriage and its far-reaching effects on individuals and families. Clients working with a Divorce Coach become empowered to make decisions with clarity and manage their lives more cost-effectively, both emotionally and financially.

Caveat:

Divorce Coaching is not therapy. Divorce coaches do not have to be licensed mental health professionals, or attorneys or mediators. Individuals do not need any specific license or credentials to be “Divorce Coaches.” However, there are individuals working as Divorce Coaches who have sound practice principles. Choose wisely!

What is Parenting Coordination?

 An increasingly popular option for divorced couples is working with a Parenting Coordinator. Typically, a Parenting Coordinator (“PC”) is appointed by the court to work in high conflict cases, but the option of working with a professional PC is available to all divorcing couples on a voluntary basis.

A PC works with parents to resolve disputes about child-centered issues. In court-appointed cases, both parents are ordered to participate. If the work is done voluntarily, it is ideal if both parents participate, however, one parent’s commitment and growth can make a huge difference in the family’s dynamics and child-focused conflict-resolution ability. That’s “the power of one!”

PCs help parents work through the nitty-gritty issues of childcare: who drives the children to and from school/sports/play dates; making decisions about after-school activities; curfews and even ear piercing. Some of the issues PCs help resolve may seem minor, but, without the professional guidance of the PC, these issues can escalate to become nasty fights that wind up in the courthouse, cost thousands of dollars in legal fees, and create emotional scars that last a lifetime.

A PC is also a valuable resource for post-divorce families when the children have outgrown the terms of the divorce agreement. Parenting plans need to evolve as children get older and their needs change, and parents benefit from the expertise of a trained professional whose focus is on dispute resolution regarding child-centered matters.

Parenting Coordination statutes and programs currently exist in several jurisdictions. The rules and qualifications for PCs vary by location; however, a PC is always an impartial alternative dispute resolution professional. Generally, the PC will be a licensed mental health professional or an attorney, with training in mediation, knowledge of child and adolescent development and family systems, familiarity with family law, and specific training in parenting coordination.

Caveat:

 Parenting coordination is not therapy, it is not advocacy for one parent against the other, and it is not an evaluation procedure conducted regarding custody. A PC has the ability to defuse emotions, facilitate problem-solving techniques and keep families out of court. Take advantage of this option!

Mentoring Services – Divorce Coaching & Parenting Coordination - By Cindy Harari |

 Cindy Harari has practiced law since 1986, developing expertise in problem solving and dispute resolution. She has coached numerous clients before, during and after divorce to help them to understand and manage the complex systems and issues involved with divorce.

As a Divorce Coach, Ms. Harari provides education and guidance to empower clients as they grow through the transformative process of divorce. She counsels clients as they develop the new personal skills they often need to thrive after divorce, with new and different responsibilities and feelings about how their life is changing.

Ms. Harari understands the “business” of dissolving the marriage and its far-reaching effects on individuals and families. She provides practical guidance to help clients develop and implement communication skills to work more effectively with attorneys, the court, mediators, and all others involved in the divorce process.

With Ms. Harari’s assistance, clients develop the ability to respond instead of react, and feel more confident about participating in the negotiation process. Her clients discuss dispute resolution strategies and develop the ability to manage intense emotional issues that often create impasses or unnecessary financial costs during and after divorce.

Ms. Harari’s professional training as a Parenting Coordinator is a bonus for families with children. Her knowledge of child and adolescent development and family systems, and familiarity with family law, combined with her training in mediation and arbitration, is a valuable resource to clients as they take on their new role as a single parent, balancing their children’s needs with their own.

Clients explore and resolve issues including logistics of time-sharing between homes, holiday and vacation planning, single-parenting dilemmas, traditional and alternative education choices, extracurricular activity involvement, remarriage, and step parenting. Working with Ms. Harari can improve the family’s well being as emotions are defused, problem solving is facilitated, and families stay out of court.

Ms. Harari’s professional training combined with years of practical experience gives her a unique perspective and distinctive insight regarding issues of divorce and parenting. Her clients become empowered to make decisions with clarity and manage their lives more cost-effectively, both emotionally and financially.

Curriculum Vitae
Cindy Harari, Esq.

Center of Psychological Effectiveness, Inc.
6950 Cypress Road, Suite 103-A
Plantation, FL 33317
944-583-8831 ext. 350
www.solutionsnottalk.com



Professional Experience |
2006 - Present

Divorce Coach & Parenting Coordinator

Provide education and guidance to empower clients as they develop successful strategies and problem-solving techniques to grow through the transformative process of divorce. As co-developer of CHILDREN FIRST Parenting Coordination Program, offer divorced and divorcing parents an expedient, non-adversarial process to create and implement parenting plans and facilitate resolution of child- focused parental conflict. Co-creator of website for CHILDREN FIRST at www.solutionsnottalk.com, as an information resource for the community

1999 - 2005

Attorney & Parenting Coordinator, Fort Lauderdale, FL

Counseled clients regarding issues including parenting plans, logistics of time-sharing between homes, holiday and vacation planning, single-parenting dilemmas, traditional and alternative education choices, extracurricular activity involvement, remarriage, and step parenting.

2000-2003

General Counsel, Airwaves Security, Inc., Pompano Beach, FL

Intellectual property dispute resolution practice

1999 - 2000

Case Manager, Salomon & Mittelberg, Coral Springs, FL

Intellectual property dispute resolution practice

1989 - 1999

Attorney, Coral Springs, FL

General Practice

1987 - 1989

Associate, Shanks, Davis & Remer, New York, NY

Entertainment Law Practise

1985 - 1987

Assistant District Attorney, Appellate Division, Bronx, NY

Volunteer work |

2005 - 2007

HYDE School Character Education Parent Program

2005

Women in Distress of Broward County Florida

EDUCATION
POST GRADUATE |

2006

Parenting Coordination Training, Conflict Resolution Cooperative, University of South Florida, Tampa FL

2005

Domestic Violence Core Competency Training Women In Distress, Broward County

2005

Parent Coordination Training, Cooperative Parenting Institute, Atlanta GA

2003

Florida Family Law Mediation Certification Training

2003

Florida Supreme Court Arbitration Certification Training

2002

Florida Circuit Civil Mediation Certification Training

LAW SCHOOL |

Benjamin N. Cardozo School of Law, Yeshiva University, New York, NY

Juris Doctor, 1985 (Cindy Rainbow) 

Honors:    Notes & Comments Editor,Cardozo Arts & Entertainment Law Journal

                   Member,Trial Advocacy Team

                    Intern,Cardozo Criminal Law Clinic

Publications:  “Radio Deregulation and the Public Interest”

                           Cardozo Arts & Entertainment Law Journal, Vol. 4 No. 1, 1985.

 Under Graduate |

State University of New York at Buffalo

Bachelor of Arts in Communication, 1979, Magna Cum Laude

Bar Admissions |

1993

State of Florida

1986

State of New York, Southern District of New York,

Eastern District of New York,Second Judicial Circuit, New York

Professional Memberships |

New York State Bar Florida Bar, Family Law Section

Ad Hoc Committee on Parenting Coordination, Family Law Section of the Florida Bar Broward County Bar Association, Family Law Section

Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC)

AFCC is a multidisciplinary organization dedicated to improving the lives of children and families through the resolution of family conflict.

Recent articles (available at www.solutionsnottalk.com) |

Parenting After Divorce – Cooperative, Parallel, or Somewhere In-Between?

Parenting Coordination – A Missing Piece of the Divorce Puzzle

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